The devil we know is better than the angel we don't...
I did a thing!!!
Lessons show up in such a wild way - don’t they?!
Nooooobody knew about what was going on with my hair - since the new year CLUMPS of hair would come out as I would pull my fingers through it. It was SO upsetting. I used to have such beautiful thick hair that I adored.
Every day it would trigger upset. And every day I allowed the pain. I was CHOOSING the pain.
My hair would come out by the handfuls. One too many bad bleach jobs, stress, who knows. I don’t play the blame game I just knew it was upsetting.
I came to Montana and was blessed to meet Chelsea Kraft (An ANGEL for reallll) who saw it and immediately said, “I can fix this!!” She told me we needed to cut it and she knew the perfect cut to do. She was so confident in the approach I never second guessed cutting my hair short for the first time everrrrr!
I could have kept the damaged hair, losing it little by little.
Or I could cut it and LET IT GROW.
Sometimes we need to cut off damaged pieces - and step into the new.
It works for all aspects of our life.
What keeps us holding onto damaged pieces?
I often use the phrase in my coaching,
"The devil we know is better than the angel we don't."
The familiar - even though it doesn't serve us - is comfortable. We know the pain it gives. We are familiar in the feeling and we have built defenses around that pain. We have learned the proverbial dance around those demons.
In this case, I knew my hair was falling out and I just kept saying, this is happening. There was a level of acceptance, despite the discomfort it caused. I was learning to dance with it.
KNOWING the pain does not serve us though, what is keeping us trapped (or frozen or flying away) is fear.
Fear of the unknown.
If we are presented an angel but we aren't familiar with it we think,
What pain does that carry with it?
Will this cause more pain and discomfort than what I am experiencing now?
Since I haven't seen this angel, I don't know that pain so I can't prepare a defense.
That's when we need to dig into faith and trust that there is a possibility that something new, albeit uncomfortable, can free us from pain.
Attachment to anything can bring extreme pain. Attachment to damage is even heavier.
When I was booking the appointment - as if it were a friend from forever - she reminded me,
“Liz you have a brand new life now, it’s time to upgrade your look too!”
And so it is 🙏❤️